Srednjoškolci sve ranije stupaju u polne odnose, a i njihov stav prema vezama i seksu uveliko je promenjen u odnosu na prošlu generaciju. Informacije o intimi dele se sa svima na internetu, a zabrinjavajuć je i trend koji preti da ostavi teške emotivne posledice.



Trend stupanja u neobavezne veze temeljene isključivo na seksualnosti proširio se među mladima, ali psiholozi upozoravaju na posledice ovakvog ponašanja.
 
- Ima još dosta mladih koji, kao i ja, smatraju da tu treba biti ljubavi, ali ima i dosta onih kojima je seks za jednu noć normalna stvar. Ne znam u kojoj meri mogu to da odvoje, ali čini se kao da mogu - rekla je osamnaestogodišnja Ivana.

- Danas je sve češće i popularnije imati ‘prijatelja s povlasticama’. Oni ustvari nisu u vezi, ali stupaju u seksualne odnose - kaže srednjoškolka Evelin.

Na pitanje što je to seksualnost, mladi će danas odgovoriti drugačije nego pre desetak godina. S njima radi psiholog Tanja Stanić.


  Mladi sve ranije imaju seksualne odnose, često iz pogrešnih razloga

- Skloni su menjanju partnera, imaju i više partnera istovremeno, postoje nekakvi novi nazivi za seksualna ponašanja poput prijatelj s povlasticom - kaže psiholog.

Na taj način pokušavaju da se emocionalno zaštite stupanjem u odnose bez emocija, ali to često završi drugačije.

- Tako da se seks više doživljava kao zabava, rekreacija, smanjivanje napetosti, možda čak i kao mamac za zavođenje partnera nakon čega uslede velika razočaranja i tuge kod devojaka - rekla je ona.


Intima postala javna stvar?

Ono što se nekada čuvalo u intimi, danas je javna stvar. Tzv. selfiji, fotografisanje ili snimanje seksualno eksplicitnih autoportreta i filmova i objavljivanje na društvenim mrežama ili slanje drugima putem mobilnog, opasan je trend koji može da uzrokuje duboke posledice, kaže psiholog Tanja Stanić.

 
- Nisu dovoljno svesni koliki broj ljudi to vidi i koliko će ih to komentarisati, kao da je stvorena lažna sigurnost ako to radimo u svojoj sobi, tako da devojke tek kasnije mogu da dožive posledice tih svojih akcija, a s druge strane tu je ta potreba da se nekome svidimo - koliko lajkova skupim, toliko vredim - kaže Stanić.

Mladima treba pomoći vaspitanjem i roditeljskim primerom, kao i pokojim savetom. Evo i kako:

- Da svakako budu uključeni, zabrane ne funkcionišu, ali da budu uključeni u taj svet na nekakav način, da mnogo razgovaraju s decom, da ispituju što dobijaju s time, koje su to potrebe koje su u podlozi nezadovoljene, a koje mogu zadovoljiti na neki drugi prihvatljiviji način. Potrebe da su voljeni i sviđaju se nekome i nekome pripadaju, potrebe za samopoštovanjem i samopoštovanjem drugih, na koje zdravije načine to mogu da dobiju - savetuje psiholog.

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24 Sata

Који су прави, а који погрешни? 

Kako da ostavi emotivne posledice, kad im je EI na nivou puza?

Tipicni sagovornici kod mene na ovu temu.

Mm, women are more horny then men are. It's been proven and women are more than likely to cheat on men than a man to cheat on a woman. But you rarely hear of that because the man gets the worst rep from it. And women to have to be a bit more cautious about sleeping around because of the whole baby issue. And there are still seriously some women who actually believe they can't get pregnant, just because they haven't yet.

Anyway, I was a slut and I'm not ashamed of it. Even when I have had people call me it, it wasn't degrading to me because to me it meant, "I just have more sex practice and obviously more safety procedures than you, and I've enjoyed my life a lot more and learned who I liked."That 20 year old will realize soon enough that she's just being stupid. That's a fear on both parts of the relationship, not just on hers. But I'm sure instead of talking to the guy about it, she would just rather protect herself.

Most women also have a hard time separating sex from emotions. Thank the fucking movies for that, with their brain washed romance movies. Women now believe that dating means "long term" and marriage means "a knight on a horse who will take her to a better place or something magical will happen and there will never be fights."

Thats not it. Never had been. Best way to think of sex is just that, sex. It's not a gateway to a relationship, it's just something biological your body wants to do and then MAYBE if you really like the person, more will come of it.But I really don't see it as a childish behavior. Selfish? Yes, completely. But not childish. Every person I have talked too has told me that their fear is to not be a good lover to their future partner. And unfortunately, you can't gain that knowledge through watching porn. It's only possible through experience.

Besides, I don't think anyone should take sexual ideas from porn as they are just as realistic as those romantic movies. So the best way is to find that friend with benefits, and acknowledge that sex with them will be a learning experience and a selfish act to get rid of the emotion of being turned on.

Love is developed after a while, and is built to strength through trials, not just through sex. While I do feel that sex is a huge part of a commitment (I mean, subconsciously, we find attractiveness as a way of how well that person will reproduce,) the other parts is learning about ourselves and how to let that person know our fears and hoping they understand.

Now, you could just find the love of your life as a virgin and train yourself to have sex with them only, but one piece of advice I always stick too when it comes to relationships, "It doesn't matter what you want in the relationship, because the other person will make the final choice." Whether they will be with you or if they will leave you.

kontrakcija misica koja traje celi zivot...

Pravi su produzavanje vrste, sve ostalo je pogreshno...
I masturbacija sushi kichmu i dlakave se dlanovi...

i kovrdza se kosa...

Problem je (njihov) sto se snimaju.

A sto se jebu malo mladji ili "iz pogresnih razloga" .. i nije neki problem. Vise iskustva. Nece se citav zivot ponasat samo seks.

A i to je iluzija. S druge strane imamo dosta neadaptiranih i neiskusnih osoba.
Manjina mozda zuri.. al ne svi.

Ja kazem katastrofa kada se 12-godisnje devojcice nabacuju nekome ko je dva puta njihovih godina.

A zasto...


Pa oni od 24 godine obicno imaju automobil, gajbu, kintu i tako, pa se fino piju kokteli, voza autom, prchi u krevetu u stanu, dobije dopuna za mobilni, pije besplatno u kaficima i diskotekama, a sve to ne bi imala sa nekim od 15-16 godina...