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Measure    Your score
Relationship Avoidance:    98
Relationship Anxiety:    78.5
Attachment style:    Fearful and Shy

Your romantic attachment style: Fearful and Shy
You have described yourself as fearfully attached. This suggests that compared to others, you may be a little introverted and find it hard to speak up for yourself.

You probably find it a little difficult to become romantically involved because of your concern about getting out there and the possibility of getting hurt. You're likely experience shyness a bit more strongly than others do, and that helps make you stick close to home. You may feel less self confident than other people.

For some people who are a bit fearful, this is just fine. However, for others, this orientation can be a problem. If you feel you are fearful in your romantic involvements, but would like to become less so, you may find that you will benefit from assertiveness training. This is a form of training in which you are gradually challenged to stick up for yourself more, to become more active in going after what you want in life, in all domains. The challenge is gradual to avoid turning off the training before it can help you. And the rewards are strong.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.

Based upon your answers, it appears that you may be more closed and withhold your feelings more in relationships. This is not necessarily a problem. But if you are having difficulties, they will most likely be in these areas:

* Your partner may complain that you are not as emotionally available as they are
* You may find it difficult to "take the next step" in a serious relationship
* You may have trouble making long-term commitments that require intimacy

Avoidance, after all, is healthy and necessary to maintain your autonomy, self esteem and safety. Its may be good to avoid possible partners when your instincts tell you that they are dangerous.

There is also a self-balancing system involved in any relationship. The person who avoids the risks of intimacy, for instance, may be able to learn about the joys of intimacy from the anxious person who worries about losing the relationship. Similarly the anxious person may benefit from appreciating the avoidant person's naturally well-developed sense of autonomy.