I am a romanian who grew up in a village in western Romania very close to the yugoslav border. Due to so many political and economical barriers we encountered inRomania of the late 80's I was like so many others forced to search for a better life. As walking abroad was almost impossible we tried just to forget about the negative aspects of our lives. Hence we reoriented our TV antennas toward Novi Sad or Negotin and watched happily the programs of the YU television. As a result we started learning the language provided, we as youth even learned the words of so many YU music bands (Plavi Orkestar, Parni Valjak, Magazin, Bajaga, Bijelo Dugme, and so much others). We watched at nights the "Program Plus" and in the latter time the Treci Kanal with so much music. We could understand almost everything broadcasted, we got merchendise from Yugoslavia, so we were pretty much in a sort of love with Yugoslavia.
As the years went by and the uprisjng in December 89 brought us the freedom we forgot slowly the things I mentioned above. But suddenly the unfortunate happenings of 1991 reoriented our minds back to the country we appreciated so much: Yugoslavia. It is hard to explain how we felt about the wars in the yugoslav space. We were first confused, then angry. Being far from the events, now people im mya age (36) can't believe there is no Yugoslavia any more. It is simply not understable for us to comprehend such a subject. As we grew up with ideea tha Yugoslavia is better than Romania from every point of view, it is impossible to wipe these facts from our minds.
The result of these emotional behaviour is that people in may age and from this region can't really understand the real reason of the war. Beyond many linguistic and historical theories, people like me still consider serbian, bosnian and croatian as being the same language. This is because we learned about the serbo-croatian language. This word came up in every TV show or radio transmission. Now we found out that for no particular reason the entity is split into three groups: serb, croat and bosnian. It is more than obvious that these three groups overlap almost 100% with confessional groups: orthodox, catholic and muslim. A simple conclusion is that these three cathegories are nuts: three groups of population speaking a 99% similar language are split apart only by religion.
I am very much aware that opening such a subject means walking on quick sands. The truth is I want to read your opinion and maybe understand better the situation mentioned above.
Tema: 
